What is considered ‘modesty’ in Islam, and why is it so important?
Where It All Began
Allah (S.W) created no human other than one as perfect. And to try and excel, we’re encouraged and motivated to take from this human. The Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) was the best of mankind, sent by Allah (S.W). He was sent to teach us the perfect way of life. He spread the message of Islam for the betterment of every individual who chooses to follow it. Islam is a religion that teaches us the importance of modesty and its benefits. And in regards to modesty, the Prophet (S.A.W) said:
Salim reported on the authority of his father that the Prophet (may peace and blessings be upon him) heard a man censuring his brother regarding modesty. Upon this the Prophet remarked:
‘Modesty is part of Iman (faith).’
Sahih Muslim 36a
Book 1, Hadith 61
Being modest includes multiple factors. It involves how we dress, our choice of words, tone of voice, expressions and so much more! Striving to be modest in all domains can have such beautiful results. If we look at the example of the Prophet (S.A.W), we can see how he embodied modesty. And so, how can we learn from his example?
Modesty in Speech
Modesty in speech is very often an indication of a person’s character. What’s more, why modesty matters can be seen in the effects of a person not being careful with the way they speak. For example, if a person becomes known for using harsh speech, people will stay away from them. And this can be problematic societally. Imagine a world of ill-spoken people! Besides, the Prophet (S.A.W) taught us why modesty matters in speech too. He mentioned:
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “He who believes in Allah and the Last Day must either speak good or remain silent.”
[Muslim].
Riyad as-Salihin 1511 : Book 17, Hadith 1
We are told in this hadith that if we believe in Allah and the Last Day, we must speak good or not say anything at all. What comes out of our mouths can either cause extreme harm or make a situation better. And this is one of the reasons why modesty matters in regards to how we speak to one another.
Modesty in Mannerisms
Why modesty matters when it comes to mannerisms is a good question. How you act around others can be a determining factor in how they perceive you. When it comes to being a Muslim, it’s important we understand what it is we are representing. Are we behaving in a way where we are representing our religion in a beautiful way?
Modesty in mannerisms includes how we behave on a general level. Because it involves how we make others feel around us. It also includes how we perceive others and how we think they should be treated. No person is better than another and so, everyone should be treated with respect.
Are you being considerate when it comes to those around you? Do you think about how you are making them feel? Are you empathetic and self-aware? The answers to these questions can help you figure out if you are being modest in your mannerisms. And whatever the answer – there’s always room for improvement!
Modesty in Attire
Allah (S.W) created men and women to all believe in Him and to follow the way of the messenger (S.A.W). He gave us beautiful examples in the Prophet (S.A.W) and in the wives of the Prophet (S.A.W). Men and women alike are accountable for everything we do. But there are certain rules when it comes to modesty for example, that can appear different.
For example, just because a man isn’t commanded to cover his hair in Islam doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have to be modest. How we have been commanded to dress differs, and it’s important we educate ourselves on such topics. In regards to women, we have been commanded to cover ourselves to ensure that we are adhering to the rules set by Allah (S.W) The Most High. Our Lord says in His book, the Quran:
يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّبِىُّ قُل لِّأَزْوَٰجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَآءِ ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِن جَلَـٰبِيبِهِنَّ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَن يُعْرَفْنَ فَلَا يُؤْذَيْنَ ۗ وَكَانَ ٱللَّهُ غَفُورًۭا رَّحِيمًۭا ٥٩
O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused. And ever is Allāh Forgiving and Merciful.
Surah Al Ahzab ayah 59
This verse shows the command of Allah (S.W) to the Prophet (S.A.W) in regard to women and modesty. And any command of Allah (S.W) must be followed because He knows best in every situation!
Why Does Your Modesty Matter?
The answer to this question is quite simple. As a Muslim woman, your status and worth are valuable. Allah (S.W) gave Muslim women such special statuses in Islam; as daughters, wives, mothers and so on. Your modesty matters because it shows your efforts in striving to please your Lord.
Why your modesty matters is shown in how you choose to please the Creator over the creation. In a world where we are encouraged to please society, as Muslim women we choose to refuse. Instead, we choose to listen to what Allah (S.W) says and hope for His reward and His pleasure.
Can you even imagine the reward for standing up against the so-called ‘norm’ in today’s world? It’s never easy standing out and having those who disapprove tell you. But never forget, Allah (S.W) sees and hears all.
So wherever you are on your modesty journey, we are so proud of you. And we want you to be proud of yourself too! Keep striving and thriving, Ukhti.
